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"Dear Nicole Arbour..
In response to your recent video “Dear Fat People” I wanted to write you a letter to explain to you that your video was neither funny NOR helpful in anyway shape or form. In fact it did the opposite for me and I’m sure many people who were upset by your so called “satire” video. I am normally a strong person and can handle stupid little girls like you but your video ended up bringing me to tears (more on that later). BTW I say little girl knowing full well your age but you certainly don’t act it.
First a little back ground on me. I am a mid 30’s woman who has struggled with her weight all her life. As a teenager and young adult I was considered skinny but never saw it that way and struggled with depression. During a very emotionally abusive relationship I gained 100 pounds and then when that relationship ended I added 50 more which if cause continued the struggle with depression. I hated myself at one point.. even contemplated harming myself… I continued to struggle since then to lose the weight.. many woman.. err.. people struggle with this. Some of them even take it to the extreme developing eating disorders etc. although still struggling with depression I have learned over the years to accept myself as me and to love myself for how I am. Thankfully I have many family and friends who also love me for who I am. I do eat pretty healthy (I know it could be improved) and exercise a lot.
Now your video claims to a funny satire video and help motivate people into losing weight but your attempt at humour and helpfulness was just a cheap awful way to get people to notice you. You would honestly have the same effect running down the street naked. You have no idea about the struggles myself and many other men and people deal with on a daily basis. You claim in your video that fat shamming is not a thing. Um.. WHAT.. you claim that it’s not a thing.. are you effing kidding me. Fat Shamming is so a thing and its part of a bigger problem of body shamming in general. I have myself have experienced firsthand fat shamming on many occasions but I have also seen it for others like my skinny friends told to “eat a sandwich” and my gym friends told to “get off the roids”.. It happens to many people of all shapes and sizes and its gotta stop. Your video is a classic example of fat/body shamming… PERIOD.. I am sick of judging eyes when I occasionally treat myself as people think that’s all I eat all the time.. WTF..
Now after watching your video a few days ago I couldn’t get one point out of my mind… your story about the “fat family” on the airplane and this brought me to tears and ill tell you why. I travel and fly a lot. I know that even though I am big I am not huge but still struggle every time I fly as to the thoughts of “will I fit into the seats” (never had a problem but it’s still in my mind) or “will I sit next to someone with judging eyes”. I see it all the time people looking at me judging my appearance cause I am overweight and sighing with relief when I don’t sit next to them. And when I do I feel uncomfortable and awful because of it. I am not even that big.. I’m a 18.. It bought me to tears thinking that I may have to deal with that again in October when I travel and It scared me to death. I considering cancelling my trip because of it. People like you, Nicole, just hurt people to make yourself feel better. It’s not motivation.. its abuse…
Also you claim that being overweight can cause health issues. I am not blind to the possibility that I may have health issues in the future and I DON’T need someone like you telling me that but let me rebut your comment by saying this. I have had 3 different physicals over the past 5 years due to various reasons including immigration. I have had those 3 of doctors tell me the same thing “for someone who is “text book” overweight you have pretty healthy”.. and those are coming from Doctors.. where is your PHD since you think you know medical health issues.
Finally do some research before posting your thoughts on plus size. The term plus size is from the fashion world for women who are about a size 12 or 14 (depending on the country). We as “fat people” didn’t make it up.. If Marilyn Monroe was alive today she would be consider plus size.. would you call her fat…
Your video was not funny or motivating. You are just a mean girl with too much time on her hands trying to get attention. If you going to make a satire video make it about yourself.. not about others.. and then disabling your comments so one can respond.. you know you did wrong. Some people have said that “the video has motivated me to lose weight” and good on them but for every one person who says that I guarantee there are 5, 6 – 10 people who are just hurting more because of it and considering hurting themselves to make the pain stop.
There is so much more I could say about your video but I refuse to waist any more of my thoughts on you.
Now getting that off my chest and crying out my pain I will now turn my sites onto better things. I won’t think about you or your nasty video again. I refuse to link anything of yours or even say your name anymore. I will take your video, wrap it into a tiny ball and shove it up my big fat ass where it belongs. If anyone who watched that piece of dirt video is hurting you are not alone and please remember that this video is not you.. you are wonderful, beautiful and totally worth it. Don’t let a poor little sad mean girl tell you any different.
I will continue to eat healthy and exercise but not because of the video but because of ME and I am worth it. I will eat healthy food because I enjoy it and will exercise to prepare for the zombie apocalypse (yes that’s coming). And if I lose weight that is a side effect of it.. and I will always still treat myself..
I do want to say one positive that came out of watching that video. All the response videos and the wonderful supportive people I have found responding to it. I have come across some amazing and talented vloggers that I will continue to follow... so thank you for helping me find amazing people that are actually worth my time.
Toodles.."