budgets. I didn’t create a budget for her but I helped her with some tools and guidelines so she could create her own. I was speaking to her via facebook asking her how her journey is going. She mentioned that she is will ahead of schedule of being debt free by her birthday in October.
She has been buckling down paying all she can to the credit cards, including bringing her lunch to work, shopping once a week for food, no clothes shopping and rarely going out. She
still goes out but plans her nights accordingly.
She mentioned something that did upset her a little. When she first started this journey she mentioned to many of her friends that she won’t be going out as much as she really wants to be rid of credit card debt. So her night outs would be planned accordingly and people are more than welcome to come visit her etc etc. Most of her friends (including myself) totally derstand and have been very supportive of her goal. However, she mentioned one “so called” friend of hers that reamed her out on facebook the other day for being a lazy snob for not going out with her every time. Steph was a little upset that her other friend not only called her lazy and nobby but dissed her as a friend because she wanted to do cheap things to avoid spending money so she could pay off her debt. Steph had mentioned that its only temporary and they can still hang out but the night benders at the bar was not going to happen until at least her
birthday. I guess she never expected that someone she considered a friend would be so unsupportive of her and her goals.
Unfortunately I have to experienced this. I don’t go out as much as did in my 20’s and I certainly don’t go out the bar every weekend spending 200-400 over the weekend at the club. I have decided I want to use my money in a different way. Sure its fun to go out and blow all your money on a good party, which I admit I still do from time to time but I plan that money spending in advance. And I definitely don’t do it every weekend like some of my friends do. The BF even has experienced this. One good friend of his told him in a drunken moment what a sell out my BF has become letting a woman (i.e. ME) handle his money. BUT he is the same guy who gets jealous and pissy when we tell him about our holiday plans. I don’t hang
around him anymore.
I have many many friends who support this, like Steph who will say “ok you are saving and cant go to the bar, how about we come over with a bottle of wine and craft”.. Those are friends.
I am not sure what it is.. whether its jealousy, fear or resentment that me and Steph have the discipline and courage to say NO.. we want to be debt free and save for the things we want.
Work hard for those goals whether it be a plane ticket or a zero credit card statement… has anyone else experienced this kind of thing?